It’s not any worse, in my opinion. People are people, with the same foibles on the path to individuation, regardless of which path it is they take.
But if you’ve believed for a long time that only one path makes sense, it is easy to find focus on the uncertainties when examining a different path.
I’ve met plenty of non-monogamous folks of various stripes (ENM myself for the last decade of marriage) who couldn’t fathom how monogamy made any sense and had a similar list of things that boggled them, just from the other angle.
It’s not any worse, in my opinion. People are people, with the same foibles on the path to individuation, regardless of which path it is they take.
But if you’ve believed for a long time that only one path makes sense, it is easy to find focus on the uncertainties when examining a different path.
I’ve met plenty of non-monogamous folks of various stripes (ENM myself for the last decade of marriage) who couldn’t fathom how monogamy made any sense and had a similar list of things that boggled them, just from the other angle.