Unironically, treating trans men like they don’t exist and holding trans women to an unrealistic standard are the strongest examples of treating them as the gender to which they identify.
Being a man = you just get to be that and no one really has to define what it is because its rude to suggest that you aren’t a man so its just whatever, no one really cares except other dudes and they mostly only care about themselves.
Being a woman = EVERYONE gets to have input on what that means.
I’m not implying being a man is worse expectation-wise, but it is just not at all accurate to say men aren’t belittled all the time for not “being man enough”.
Oh another man on tv called you not manly enough? Try fielding daily bullshit about your nail color, hair color, eyeliner thickness, how fat or thin you are (fat men aren’t fat lois, only fat women are fat), how much worth you have based on whether some old ugly fucking loser wants to fuck you. I can go on forever. Fuck being a woman.
It’s not a competition and this is not even remotely a good way to talk about this, but yes, men on TV and in every day life often denigrate other men.
As usually forgeting trans men exists
Unironically, treating trans men like they don’t exist and holding trans women to an unrealistic standard are the strongest examples of treating them as the gender to which they identify.
Right?
Being a man = you just get to be that and no one really has to define what it is because its rude to suggest that you aren’t a man so its just whatever, no one really cares except other dudes and they mostly only care about themselves.
Being a woman = EVERYONE gets to have input on what that means.
I’m not implying being a man is worse expectation-wise, but it is just not at all accurate to say men aren’t belittled all the time for not “being man enough”.
Oh another man on tv called you not manly enough? Try fielding daily bullshit about your nail color, hair color, eyeliner thickness, how fat or thin you are (fat men aren’t fat lois, only fat women are fat), how much worth you have based on whether some old ugly fucking loser wants to fuck you. I can go on forever. Fuck being a woman.
It’s not a competition and this is not even remotely a good way to talk about this, but yes, men on TV and in every day life often denigrate other men.
Why aren’t you doing more? Why aren’t you more successful? Why aren’t you stronger? Why aren’t you tougher?
Have heard all of this all of my life as a woman.
Now try people not respecting you because they do or don’t want to fuck you.
Exactly. Then there’s the toxic insults about being feminine or perceived to be even in the very slightest. It’s pretty shitty and pervasive.