This is the real answer. You can’t force people. You have to accept that you just won’t talk to some of your people anymore.
I got rid of meta 11 years ago. I have accepted that I won’t be invited to events and won’t talk to others anymore. Anyone who eventually wanted to talk to me made their account or started to call me instead.




Spoiler for semi explicit content. But, you don’t have to do something you don’t like. So unless your partner is asking for it and you want to see their pleasure, nobody is making you do this.
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I can grind my clit on the pubic bone, which is wonderful for me and boring for him. So you switch grinding and bouncing so both can enjoy.